There are some lessons in life that we only need to learn once. Most kids only need to touch a hot stove once to learn that it’s something they don’t want to ever do again. However there are other lessons that seem like a lifelong journey, a never ending practice. The lesson I’m thinking about today is about the beauty and power of Letting Go.
I’ve learned the power of letting go so many times over the years. I’ve found the relief and freedom that finally comes only after letting go of long-held resentments. I’ve experienced how a broken heart can be healed after an ended relationship by finally letting go of your expectations, best laid plans, and longshot hopes for a reconciliation. I’ve even applied the process of letting go to my yoga practice. By letting go of fear of falling on my face and of my need to control every situation, I’ve allowed myself to soar to new heights and attempt poses I’d never dreamed possible. So yeah, I’ve figured out that letting go works. Time and time again it is the one truly miraculously healing option we have when dealing with life’s trials. We certainly can’t change the past, fix other people, or conrol the future. We can let go of our crazy attempts to do all three. Given all of the evidence in my past that letting go works why does it still seem so difficult sometimes?
Even though I can’t control other people I can still hold resentments when they don’t meet my expectations. Worse yet, I can hold resentments against MYSELF when I don’t meet my expectations. Who needs that?
Why all this discussion about letting go? I was walking with Jeff and Dash in the park yesterday and it was a cool, crisp afternoon. I felt free (practically jolly!) and happy and whole. I’d realized that our moment together in the park would not have been possible had I not let go of my fears about leaving my day job to start my own business. I’d have been at work on this beautiful sunny weekday afternoon. In that moment of joy I found the strength to let go of my critical thoughts (of myself, of Jeff, of Dash, of my business, of my yoga practice, of my family, of my friends, of the color of the grass and the temperature of the air). Letting go of all of my expectations and ensuing mental drama, even for just a few minutes, felt really freeing. I realized just how much energy I waste on such ridiculous things like regret or fear or control or doubt. Once I let go and was present in the moment, an abundance of beauty and joy was waiting for me.
Easier said than done, right? But if it’s so easy to learn that Hot Stove = Don’t Touch why can’t these bigger lessons be just as easily integrated when we realize how beneficial they are? I guess learning to Let Go is easy. Practicing Letting Go when it feels like all we have to cling to are our doubts, fears, etc. is hard.
Today I challenge you (and me!) to practice letting go. Whatever is holding you back, see if you can take a deep breath (or ten or twenty deep breaths) and find the space and courage to let go. You just might amaze yourself with how easy it is and how great you feel!